When I first found myself single again, I hated it. I found it hard to adjust to being ‘me’ again after being ‘we’. It didn’t help that it had been such a long time since I’d last been single and things had changed a lot since then, so much so that I actually wrote a post about my dating adventures.
One thing I’ve learnt in life, is that people like to ask questions. People are inquisitive. From the minute I got engaged it was a steady stream of questions:
- Have you set the date?
- When are you going to have your first baby?
- When will you have another baby?
- Do you think you’ll try for a boy?
People inevitably put their own timelines and ideas into you. Understanding their reasoning doesn’t make it any less frustrating. Although I had hoped this would stop when I was single, it didn’t. The questions just changed to:
- Do you think you’ll ever remarry?
- Will you have more children?
Who knows what the future holds. Life is challenging, I can’t predict how I might feel next week let alone in years to come. Right now I’m happy being single. Next week I might meet a Ryan Reynolds lookalike. Who knows?
I’ve been single now for just under two years and the first anniversary of my divorce being finalised is upon us. The relief and content at the decree absolute is still there.
For the first time in my adult life I am single and I really enjoy it. So much so that I compiled a list of some of the reasons that I love being singles. Next time that people question me about dating and remarriage, I’m just giving them this link.
All the reasons I love being single.
I can watch what I want on TV (bye-bye expensive Sky Sports Package! I didn’t even realise the football season had started again.)
I can have friends and family visit my home whenever they like – my ex was very anti-social.
I have put scented candles literally everywhere.
And the same with throws, scatter cushions, pictures and inspirational quotes. My home, my rules.
I can go to bed whenever I want to, without being criticised for being a night owl and wanting to stay up late.
I can cook whatever I fancy, whenever I want or eat out if I want. Hell, we can even have cereal for tea if we want to once in a while.
I have all the wardrobe and cupboard space for my clothes, handbags and shoes.
Ditto for bathroom shelf space.
I don’t have to share my bed with anyone and can lie like a starfish if I want (until the kids come in!)
I have no in-laws.
And there you have it, just a few of the reasons I love being single.
What about you? What do you enjoy about being single?
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