For me, 2016 has been a year of lessons. I’ve learnt even more about how to stand on my own feet and be the strong mother that my daughters deserve. I’ve learnt how to be myself, what I stand for and the values by which I live my life. I’ve removed people from my life this year, but actually, I wasn’t gaining from their presence anyway. Was it a loss to not be surrounded by negativity?
Last year, I have most definitely learnt the power of reflection and am slowly beginning to realise the importance of not only reflecting on my choices and actions but also the impact they may have on others. However, the biggest lesson that I have learnt this year is that it is ok to be me. It’s ok to be introverted. I do not need to be apologetic about my personality, my traits or my hobbies. I do not need to make excuses if I want time to myself. I don’t have to be available to all of the people all of the time. My happiness, and that of my daughters, is paramount.
In light of all the lessons that I have learnt this year, in 2017, I am pursuing happiness. That is my only goal. I want to be as happy as I can be and in order to do that, I have to set my intentions for 2017.
2017 Resolution 1:
Get more organised
Now this is something I think that I will find more difficult! I have a little home to take care of, and I do like it just so. I also have my girls to spend time with as well as other family members. Then there’s my job, my studying and my blog. I have a lot of different aspects of my life and I want to manage them all well. This will help to keep my anxiety levels down.
So, I raided Paperchase for every organisational tool that I could find and browsed the App Store for any useful apps. My intention is to plan ahead as much as possible so that I have the time to complete all of my tasks efficiently but then also to plan in time for movie nights and cuddles with B and A. Another organisational tip is to outsource as many of my activities as I can in order to save time. Do I really need to go to the supermarket when online shopping gets the task done more quickly?
2017 Resolution 2:
Set more time aside for self-care
This resolution is tied in with the previous one. Because I am so disorganised, I always put my own needs and feelings last. Often, it’s only when I am near breaking point that I remember to schedule in time for myself. This has to stop. So as well as organising my work and projects more effectively, I plan to also schedule a small amount of time daily to rest and look after myself. Some days this will look like a bubble bath instead of my usual quick showers but at other times it will be watching a film, reading a book or a phone conversation with a friend. There’ll even be days when it will mean an early night. I need to spend more time looking after myself so that I am not resentful of the huge amount of time that I spend looking after others or my responsibilities. The simple fact is; I can’t pour from an empty cup.
2017 Resolution 3:
Read more books.
I miss reading books. Before I had my daughters, I read so much. I don’t read as much now, especially being a single parent but often when I do read, I’m reading blogs online or fashion magazines. I miss the feel and the smell of a good book and getting so engrossed in the story that I lose track of time. That is harder now, as most of the books that I do read are about Peppa Pig or repetitive rhythmic stories about going on bear hunts or searching for the gruffalo.
I’m lucky that for my recent birthday, and again at Christmas, I was given a range of both fiction and non-fiction new books to read. So my intention this year is to read a new book a month. I think this will be a challenge but, I think I can rise to it and at least try as I really do miss reading books that are designed for people over the age of 4.
2017 Resolution 4:
Eat more healthily and exercise.
And this is so clichéd but it’s one that I need to do. I think so many of us need think about what we put into our bodies. Disorganisation is completely and utterly the reason that my diet is less than stellar. I often skip meals and rush around, forgetting to eat. And then wonder my energy levels flag and I feel unwell a lot. I should really know better, my sister is a Personal Trainer and she knows masses about nutrition and is always trying to advise me. 2017 will be the year that I finally listen!
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What are your resolutions for the new year?